Jennifer White, CSW, returns on this episode of Mormon Mental Health as Natasha continues her series on boundaries. In this episode, Jennifer and Natasha discuss boundaries with parents post-mission, the engagement period and then after marriage. James joins the discussion to share his experience with his in-laws in his marriage especially how he and his wife have gone through a faith transition.
Natasha finishes up the episode by giving 4 tips to help with setting boundaries with parents and in-laws.
Dr. Julie Hanks
Natasha will be in Houston the beginning of July and will be attending the Sunstone Symposium at the end of July where she will be presenting multiple sessions as well as have a booth that she encourages all to stop by. For more information, please visit her website: natashaparker.org
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Natasha Helfer Parker continues the series on "boundaries" that is being hosted by a panel of providers from Symmetry Solutions, who specialize on mental health and relational issues within Mormonism. This is the second segment which focuses on Primary and Nursery age children (11 and under).
Those who join us in this episode are Lisa Butterworth, founder of Feminist Mormon Housewives; Kimberly Anderson, founder of the Mama Dragons Project; and Jen White who serves clients also from the Sandy Counseling Center.
Mormon Mental Health Podcast will be creating a 5 to 6 part series on boundaries within Mormonism. Natasha Helfer Parker has invited the providers from Symmetry Solutions to discuss boundariesÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã‚Â¦ starting with a general overview, then with children, following with teens, then as adults and other topics such as sexuality, etc. in panel format. We notice in our mental health work with primarily LDS clientele, that there are difficulties understanding what healthy boundaries are and look likeÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã‚Â¦ as well as how to implement them in a patriarchal and authoritative structure, where often people feel like boundaries have already been set for them by the system. Unfortunately, not having the ability to create healthy boundaries for oneself, oneÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢s children, and oneÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢s familyÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã‚Â¦ can contribute to issues such as depression, anxiety, PTSD, negative relational dynamics and even abuse. From simple things, like whether or not one feels personal permission to reject a calling, to more serious issues such as whether or not we should support childrenÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢s interviews behind closed doors where they are asked sensitive questions including about their sexualityÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã‚Â¦. this is a relevant topic to todayÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢s Latter-day Saints. We hope you will join in the discussion through the comments section to share either things you want us to address, things you are concerned about, ways you disagree/agree with us, things that have helped you balance healthy boundaries, etc.
In this first part Natasha is joined by Sara Hughes Zabawa and Jana Spangler for a general discussion on boundaries and some of the common issues that tend to come up within a Mormon framework.
Sara received a Masters Degree in Social Work and a Graduate Certificate in WomenÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢s Studies from the University of Michigan. She completed her Bachelors Degree in Social Work with a minor is WomenÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢s Studies from Brigham Young University. She has extensive experience working with trauma survivors and with teens and young adults struggling with depression and anxiety. Sara helps LGBT+ individuals and their families develop advocacy skills, foster acceptance, and explore the relationship between their sexual and/or gender identity with their religious beliefs. Sara also helps clients navigate difficult life transitions, especially those related to their faith, is a skilled yoga instructor and uses mindfulness training to support clients in cultivating self-care practices.
Jana Spangler, IAC is an Integral Associate Coach and dedicated student of personal growth strategies. Over the past 5 years she has continually attended seminars and retreats, participated in on-line courses, studied world thought and spiritual leaders through books and interviews, and participated in several support groups. In July 2014, after having been born and raised in the LDS faith (Mormonism), she experienced a near-complete collapse in her faith. Since that time, she has used the tools she has gained through her study to travel a path of increasingly fulfilling spirituality and has spent countless hours supporting and mentoring others who are experiencing pain in their spiritual life and relationships.
Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFT, CST runs an online practice, Symmetry Solutions, which focuses on helping families and individuals with faith concerns, sexuality and mental health. She writes at The Mormon Therapist for Patheos: Hosting the Conversation of Faith, runs Mormon Sex Info and is the current president for the Mormon Mental Health Association.